Walking a thin line

I just finished haggling over visitation time with my ex for the kids this summer. I feel like I just had a long negotiation with a car salesman. UGH!

I am not about to give him exactly what he wants, because he thinks we are just waiting to work around him. Wrong!

I also did not want to let it out of the bag that we are moving into town during that month. He doesn't need to know until 30 days after the move is complete. (legally) Besides, he didn't tell me he was moving and didn't tell me he had moved until the kids mentioned it. So I am only treating him as he treats me.

He wanted them the first week of July. I don't think so. We will be moving. I don't want the kids gone while we move and come back to a different house. Moving is going to be tough enough for our youngest. That would be wrong. At least now, after negotiations, (HA! I was going to get my way regardless.) they will be leaving during the 2nd week of July and coming back the first week of August. Enough time for us to get the new house comfy and hopefully the old house sold.

We will be signing the lease on the new place this week. Hoping to get through the moving process without emotionally ripping myself apart.

Ex's are assess!

K's ex is an ass. He is suppose to have the kids back by 6 pm and it is now after 10 pm. He has decided he isn't bringing them back until tomorrow morning. Forget the fact that they have school and he is a 2 1/2 hour drive away and they have to be in school by 830 and they have long days with practices after school. Lets forget the fact that there is a court order saying he has to have them back by 6. Oh an maybe we can forget that we won't do a damn thing about it because we leave in a screwed up state and it would cause more hell for us if K did anything than if we just let it go. If we just be the adults and let it freakin go! I am pissed! How do I let it go?

No matter how it is that I do, I must let it go. If I don't I will be angry with no one to direct it at except the wrong people. The kids are 17, almost 18, and 16. If they had a major problem with it they would have used their cells and called right? So why are we so pissed off? Because he could be a man about it, no not even adult about it, and call to let us know that they are still there and what his plans were. How flippin adult is that?

I do know that this little incident has made it a little clearer about our moving in the future. If we are further away he is less of a problem for us, or at least that is the hope.

K is upset and she has every right to be. She is not sure what to do. I am assuming it will be one of those things where we just sweep it under the bridge and let it pass. If we were in another state, where we had better legal standing, we'd have more choices.

I ask for the strength, the patience, and the ability to just deal with this in the best possible way.