My ex has retired from the Navy. Thus he is making less money. I get it. So he thought it would be a great idea to petition the state to review his child support payments before he retired, ie while he was still making money. The result.... his request to lower his payments was denied because he was still making money. Not my problem.
He moves to Arkansas - not my fault. He chooses to not use the training the Navy gave him to make good money, but to go to school to change fields. Again - not my fault.
He asks me to agree to lower the child support. Like I didn't see this coming. Then he hounds me. Somehow he seems to think that being a jerk is going to make me run out to sign papers. He needs to learn a little about trying to get what you want.
He get the kids for a month. He asks that I bring them half way. I don't have to do this, but he assumes I will. Trying to be nice, for the kids, I do. He gives me the paperwork. It is WRONG!! However, he expects me to just initial the mistakes and sign them. I AM NOT STUPID!! I am not signing incorrect paperwork.
I make the corrections and send them to his lawyer. He has proceeded to give me crap and act like a jerk about it. Ok, so what part of this did he miss? I do not have to sign them. I can force him to go all the way to a full court hearing where I can prove he is under employed. Yet he is going to be a jerk. Hmmm. Last text msg I sent told him that he is going to give me crap for something his lawyer screwed up and I am just going to sit here and smile because it isn't my fault. I said I would sign correct paperwork.
My kids are up there right now. I don't want him being an ass to them, which he has been known to do. They call me most nights and I don't want him pulling any crap with them about calling home. I am trying to be nice when all I want to tell him is to stop being an ass because I don't have to agree to jack. I can only be nice so many ways before I want to be a total *itch and tell him to back off or I sit on them, once they are fixed, until hell freezes over.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
June has been....
an interesting month.
The school year ended, the kids started their first month long visit to their Dad, I went to Dallas for a week of training, I went on yet another interview, we learned of L's real spring grades, and now we have a tropical storm in the Gulf that we are making preparations for. There is a very good likely hood that we will be evacuating inland on Wednesday to escape a hurricane.
I miss the kids. C calls me almost every night so that we can continue our tradition of saying good night. Tonight he cried when he called me. He wants to know how much longer. 18 days. He has already been at Dad's for 10. Which is, honestly, 3 days more than he wanted to be there.
With this storm in the Gulf there are some issues we have to face in the next few days that honestly... SUCKS!! We have to pack up the van and the car. Make sure we have all of the items we can't replace - pictures, birth certificates, social security cards, marriage licenses, etc. Then if the evacuation is needed we will drive up to Austin and stay at a hotel there, hoping that our house isn't damaged, and if it is, that it is wind damaged and not water damaged because our flood insurance doesn't kick in until the 11th of July and well.... THAT WOULD SUCK!
The school year ended, the kids started their first month long visit to their Dad, I went to Dallas for a week of training, I went on yet another interview, we learned of L's real spring grades, and now we have a tropical storm in the Gulf that we are making preparations for. There is a very good likely hood that we will be evacuating inland on Wednesday to escape a hurricane.
I miss the kids. C calls me almost every night so that we can continue our tradition of saying good night. Tonight he cried when he called me. He wants to know how much longer. 18 days. He has already been at Dad's for 10. Which is, honestly, 3 days more than he wanted to be there.
With this storm in the Gulf there are some issues we have to face in the next few days that honestly... SUCKS!! We have to pack up the van and the car. Make sure we have all of the items we can't replace - pictures, birth certificates, social security cards, marriage licenses, etc. Then if the evacuation is needed we will drive up to Austin and stay at a hotel there, hoping that our house isn't damaged, and if it is, that it is wind damaged and not water damaged because our flood insurance doesn't kick in until the 11th of July and well.... THAT WOULD SUCK!
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Searching.... but for what, really?
I have been searching for a new job. Most of the time I can tell you where I am searching, but honestly its just out of here. Yes, I would prefer it to be near my hometown. I can't deny that. I would love to be closer to people that we can do things with.
My best friend from high school and I reconnected late last year and it has been nice to get to know her again. She knows all about Ker and I and basically said "I am glad you found someone who makes you happy." It doesn't bother her a bit that I am with another woman. I didn't get the "I'm ok with it" answer. She just asked the normal questions. How long have we been together? What happened with the ex? She knew him, so I wasn't surprised she asked.
My extended family is there. Though there is drama, its family drama that we have to get use to ignoring. LOL
One of the biggest pulls is that Ker and I are legal there. Fully married. The other stuff is honestly a bonus.
So why am I not able to get my foot in the door at a school district up there? What do I have to do to get a job offer? I have looked all over the western part of the state, every school district in a 10 county area. Nothing seems to be available right now. The two positions that were available - one I wasn't qualified for the other - they gave it to a coach.
So now I am here. Just here.
Thursday we drive up for the child exchange. Not funny. On Friday K and C begin the one month visit with their Dad out of state. Its going to be tough. I have never been away from them for more than a week. It will help that I gave K her first cell phone. She will be able to call and text whenever she wants.
It will help some that I leave Sunday and won't return until Friday evening for training in Dallas. Being away the first week they are gone may help, but they will still be gone when I get back here.
I want to be satisfied with staying where I am. Maybe that will come when I become more comfortable with the kids visiting their Dad. Maybe it will come when they return. Maybe it won't happen because I don't legally have a wife her in backassward state.
She's my wife - get over it.
My best friend from high school and I reconnected late last year and it has been nice to get to know her again. She knows all about Ker and I and basically said "I am glad you found someone who makes you happy." It doesn't bother her a bit that I am with another woman. I didn't get the "I'm ok with it" answer. She just asked the normal questions. How long have we been together? What happened with the ex? She knew him, so I wasn't surprised she asked.
My extended family is there. Though there is drama, its family drama that we have to get use to ignoring. LOL
One of the biggest pulls is that Ker and I are legal there. Fully married. The other stuff is honestly a bonus.
So why am I not able to get my foot in the door at a school district up there? What do I have to do to get a job offer? I have looked all over the western part of the state, every school district in a 10 county area. Nothing seems to be available right now. The two positions that were available - one I wasn't qualified for the other - they gave it to a coach.
So now I am here. Just here.
Thursday we drive up for the child exchange. Not funny. On Friday K and C begin the one month visit with their Dad out of state. Its going to be tough. I have never been away from them for more than a week. It will help that I gave K her first cell phone. She will be able to call and text whenever she wants.
It will help some that I leave Sunday and won't return until Friday evening for training in Dallas. Being away the first week they are gone may help, but they will still be gone when I get back here.
I want to be satisfied with staying where I am. Maybe that will come when I become more comfortable with the kids visiting their Dad. Maybe it will come when they return. Maybe it won't happen because I don't legally have a wife her in backassward state.
She's my wife - get over it.
Saturday, June 12, 2010
School is over, where is my sanity?
The school year is over, when do I feel like me again?
I have been trying, for awhiler now, to get a position at a school someplace other than here. However, I seem to be getting nowhere very quickly. I have been asked to come for interviews and then I get the thanks, but no thanks.
Where am I screwing up? Thats my first thought. What am I missing?
The kids are going to visit their Dad, for a month, beginning on June 18th. I am trying not to let the emotions over take me, but you won't see me jumping up and down. They are up and down about going, and although I really want to say "Oh hell no they aren't going!" he is their Dad and he does care about them too. Once they go maybe my emotional state will level out.
I agreed to drive up to Dallas to meet him for the exchange. Thats on that's on the 18th and then I have to drive back up with a group of teachers on June 20th. I will be there the 20th through the 25th. I am really not looking forward to spending a week with them. I have been assigned a roommate that I would rather not each lunch with let alone sleep in the same hotel room with for five nights.
It is summer, where is my sanity? When do I begin to feel less stress? I am not quite sure. I am going to find those projects around the house i have been putting off and start tackling them. There is the back deck to finish, the half bath floor a few tiles left to be finished, and I can begin cross stitchin and quilting again. First thing I am doing is repacking some of my school crap and taking it up to the storage unit to get it out of my sight for the next two months.
I have been trying, for awhiler now, to get a position at a school someplace other than here. However, I seem to be getting nowhere very quickly. I have been asked to come for interviews and then I get the thanks, but no thanks.
Where am I screwing up? Thats my first thought. What am I missing?
The kids are going to visit their Dad, for a month, beginning on June 18th. I am trying not to let the emotions over take me, but you won't see me jumping up and down. They are up and down about going, and although I really want to say "Oh hell no they aren't going!" he is their Dad and he does care about them too. Once they go maybe my emotional state will level out.
I agreed to drive up to Dallas to meet him for the exchange. Thats on that's on the 18th and then I have to drive back up with a group of teachers on June 20th. I will be there the 20th through the 25th. I am really not looking forward to spending a week with them. I have been assigned a roommate that I would rather not each lunch with let alone sleep in the same hotel room with for five nights.
It is summer, where is my sanity? When do I begin to feel less stress? I am not quite sure. I am going to find those projects around the house i have been putting off and start tackling them. There is the back deck to finish, the half bath floor a few tiles left to be finished, and I can begin cross stitchin and quilting again. First thing I am doing is repacking some of my school crap and taking it up to the storage unit to get it out of my sight for the next two months.
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Bias continues!
My students produced this documentary for a history contest. They interviewed several individuals and worked long and hard on it. They went to competition today and were told it wasn't historical and were told it didn't prove their point about Prop 8. Please note - Prop 8 is NEVER EVER mentioned in the video.
They were denied a slot to continue on to state competition due to judge's bias. I went to the director and though she agreed that I made my point and the proof is there that it was obvious bias, that by rules, judges decisions are final.
She continued that she knows there are things that need to be improved upon for next year, but she couldn't help us. There was no recourse for us. We were shafted! I admit, I cried. I felt and feel helpless. My students are being punished for something neither they or I can control. They deserved to move on to state.
I am proud of them!
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Grant me patience, PLEASE
Our 18 yr old daughter is home for the semester due to a November car accident she was in. She has an injured leg that is requiring physical therapy and visits with the orthopedic for the next several months.
Somewhere along the line she also seems to have injured her personality and I swear her intelligence. I am not trying to be mean, but I am having a very difficult time dealing with her "issues."
I say "issues" because I understand the physical injury. It wasn't her fault. She didn't do anything to put herself in harms way. She didn't step out in front of traffic, didn't try bungee jumping, rock climbing, parachuting, or uni-cycling. She was the back seat passenger of a vehicle that was stopped in traffic and was then rear ended by a dumb ass college student, in an F-150, who, at 70 mph did not see the dozens of red rear lights of the traffic that was stopped ahead of her. When this dumb ass finally realized there were stopped vehicles she used the vehicle our daughter was in to make a sudden and violent stop.
Since then L has been very difficult to deal with. I don't know how many times I have seen her cry, not just from pain, but from the why me question. The pity party she has thrown for herself is now reaching into its fourth month. She has not been able to mentally get past this. I am at a loss to be of any help. In fact, I have gone into retreat.
She has turned on people her at home. She is, for the lack of other words, bitchy. She has yelled at the younger kids, said things she doesn't need to say, and is just rude and bitchy. I am tired of the attitude that we are here to supply her with all her wants and needs and that she is incapable of doing things because she is in a boot. She can still walk around. She will claim, and has claimed, she can't. I have, at that point, reminded her of the 18 to 24 year olds who are returning from Iraq and Afghanistan in wheelchairs who would love to be able to change places with her. The ones without the leg to repair, over time, in a boot.
I have grown short with her. I do not want any part of her pity party. K says she is going to go see her counselor. I personally think a good ass kicking would be just as helpful.
She wasn't doing well in college last fall. She didn't say a word to us about it. Never asked for help, never warned us. When the shit began to hit the fan she then tried to lie about it. I am so over her crap. It has been on continuous problem. Ok, its not one problem, but several problems that have become intertwined and are a big pain in the ass.
I ask for patience. I ask for internal wisdom and guidance - because right now I am lost.
Somewhere along the line she also seems to have injured her personality and I swear her intelligence. I am not trying to be mean, but I am having a very difficult time dealing with her "issues."
I say "issues" because I understand the physical injury. It wasn't her fault. She didn't do anything to put herself in harms way. She didn't step out in front of traffic, didn't try bungee jumping, rock climbing, parachuting, or uni-cycling. She was the back seat passenger of a vehicle that was stopped in traffic and was then rear ended by a dumb ass college student, in an F-150, who, at 70 mph did not see the dozens of red rear lights of the traffic that was stopped ahead of her. When this dumb ass finally realized there were stopped vehicles she used the vehicle our daughter was in to make a sudden and violent stop.
Since then L has been very difficult to deal with. I don't know how many times I have seen her cry, not just from pain, but from the why me question. The pity party she has thrown for herself is now reaching into its fourth month. She has not been able to mentally get past this. I am at a loss to be of any help. In fact, I have gone into retreat.
She has turned on people her at home. She is, for the lack of other words, bitchy. She has yelled at the younger kids, said things she doesn't need to say, and is just rude and bitchy. I am tired of the attitude that we are here to supply her with all her wants and needs and that she is incapable of doing things because she is in a boot. She can still walk around. She will claim, and has claimed, she can't. I have, at that point, reminded her of the 18 to 24 year olds who are returning from Iraq and Afghanistan in wheelchairs who would love to be able to change places with her. The ones without the leg to repair, over time, in a boot.
I have grown short with her. I do not want any part of her pity party. K says she is going to go see her counselor. I personally think a good ass kicking would be just as helpful.
She wasn't doing well in college last fall. She didn't say a word to us about it. Never asked for help, never warned us. When the shit began to hit the fan she then tried to lie about it. I am so over her crap. It has been on continuous problem. Ok, its not one problem, but several problems that have become intertwined and are a big pain in the ass.
I ask for patience. I ask for internal wisdom and guidance - because right now I am lost.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
What a week!
The History Day competition is fast approaching. My students are coming down to the wire for deadline. I am putting in longer hours at school, but so are they.
I hate having to spend so much time away from home, but I love it when things start clicking and the students interest is sparked. The are really starting to throw this documentary together. The ideas are flowing. I just hope they are able to edit it well.
I hate having to spend so much time away from home, but I love it when things start clicking and the students interest is sparked. The are really starting to throw this documentary together. The ideas are flowing. I just hope they are able to edit it well.
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